Friday, December 25, 2009

I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year!!

I'm Spending Christmas With Jesus Christ This Year!
I see the countless Christmas trees
Around the world below
With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars
reflecting on the snow.

The sight is so spectacular
Please wipe away a tear
For I 'm spending Christmas
With Jesus Christ this year.

I hear the many Christmas songs
That people hold so dear
But the sounds of music can't compare
With the Christmas choir up here.

For I have no words to tell you
The joy their voices bring
For it is beyond description
To hear an angel sing.

I know how much you miss me
For I feel your breaking heart...
But through our memories so dear
We're never far apart.

I can't tell you of the Splendor
Or the peace here in this place.
Can you just imagine Christmas
With our Savior face to face?

I'll ask him to light your spirit
As I tell him of your love.
So then pray for one another
As you lift your eyes above.

So please let your hearts be joyful
And let your spirit sing.
For I'm spending Christmas in Heaven
And I'm walking with the King.

Wednesday, December 9, 2009

21 Years

21 years ago on December 9th 1988, this awesome guy, my Great Grandpa Waters did his first live sealing and made
This family, a FOREVER family

in this temple!

And look what it has become!

Thanks Mom and Dad for making the choice to become a forever family! I love you guys so much!!!!!!

Sunday, November 29, 2009

Christmas Tree

On Friday, our good friends the Lewis' invited us to go cut Christmas trees with them. We went up around Caliente. The permit was a whole $4! We got a beautiful tree that at a Christmas tree lot would have been around $80. We had a great time hunting for the perfect trees and shooting. Thanks Lewis' for inviting us!!!

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Crazy Zack!!!

For my little brother, Zacks birthday he wanted to go ride the rides on top of the Stratosphere. He is one crazy kid and rode them all a few times. Brandon and I were chicken and just watched. Happy Late 17th Birthday Zack!!!

Monday, November 23, 2009

What a weekend

Well we went up to Reno to play in the state football game and I'm very sad to say we didn't win. It was a hard to see the boys so upset. We have won the past 2 years and was hoping for a 3-peat. The season was fun and now its on to basketball!

Saturday, October 31, 2009

Happy big 50 Dad!!!

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Last weekend we surprised my Dad with a party at TGI Fridays for his 50th birthday. My Grandma Gainey and Aunt Michelle came from CA, Brandon and Lindsey from St. George and the rest of us and Grandpa Waters all met up at Fridays and my mom and Dad showed up thinking they were going to have a nice quiet date night but to his surprise we were all there. It was great! He had no idea. It was so much fun to spend a big birthday for my dad with family.

I love my Dad so much. He's such an awesome person and does so much for his family. We love our Dad so much and are thankful he's ours.

Our pictures

Here are some of my favorites. There were so many good ones I had a hard time choosing just these.

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Friday, October 23, 2009

Sneak peek...

Brandon and I had pictures done yesterday and here is one of them. I cant wait to see the rest. We had a good time and Korindi is so creative. She found the frame in the dirt and it just happened to match what we were wearing. I would not have thought to use the frame like she did. I will post more pictures when I get them.

Sunday, October 18, 2009

Our Weekend

This past Saturday Brandon and I finally got away for the day and spent some much needed good quality time together. With the recent failed IVF cycle(will blog about when the time is right), we really needed to spend time with just the 2 of us. This is a very busy time of year for Brandon and Saturday is usually his day to sit and watch hours of football and do nothing but he gave that up and took me to Zion. The weather was awesome and there went to many people there. We went on 4 hikes ,which we are both feeling the effects of today. Thanks babe for the wonderful day and I look forward to more of them.
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Sunday, October 11, 2009

For my Birthday...

This is where I get to go!
Im so excited! Brandon said that he will take me this year even if something with Basketball comes up he will still take me. Sorry MVHS basketball, this year I get him. I bug him about going all the time and with Disney's promo this year I get in free! What away to spend the big 25 birthday. Now If December 29th will hurry and get here. Who ever would like to join is more than welcome to.

Friday, September 18, 2009

Its someones BIRTHDAY!!!

Today is Brandon's birthday!!! He probably wont read this but I want everyone to know what an amazing husband he is! I couldn't be more happy. He takes such good care of me and always puts me first( even through football, basketball and track seasons). I'm so proud of him and the things he does. I love going to his coaching events to support him. We have had our hard times but he always makes sure I know he will always be by my side. I am so thankful that he honors his priesthood and has been able to give me some amazing blessings. Brandon, I love you and am so thankful you're mine!!! HAPPY 27th BIRTHDAY!

Saturday, September 5, 2009

Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month

September is Ovarian Cancer Awareness month. Lets spread the word and make more women aware of this "silent killer". With the recent passing of my Grandma who was taken from us because of Ovarian Cancer, I want to help other women know the sign and symptoms. Please take the time to read through the symptoms and educate yourself on this horrible form of cancer. If you would like I have fact/symptoms cards that would fit in your wallet.

Join the hundreds across the nation wearing TEAL to support National Ovarian Cancer Awareness Month. TEAL is the ovarian cancer community’s color and serves as a reminder that ovarian cancer is the deadliest of all the cancers of the female reproductive system and a leading cause of cancer death among women.


Even in its early stages ovarian cancer has symptoms. Research indicates that 95 percent of women with ovarian cancer had symptoms and 90 percent of women experienced symptoms with early-stage ovarian cancer. Symptoms vary from woman to woman and many times depend on the location of the tumor and its impact on the surrounding organs. Many of the symptoms mimic other conditions such as irritable bowel syndrome.

The Gynecologic Cancer Foundation, the Society of Gynecologic Oncologists and the American Cancer Society, with significant support from the Alliance formed a consensus statement on ovarian cancer. The Ovarian Cancer National Alliance has endorsed the consensus statement, which was announced in June 2007.

The statement follows:

Historically ovarian cancer was called the “silent killer” because symptoms were not thought to develop until the chance of cure was poor. However, recent studies have shown this term is untrue and that the following symptoms are much more likely to occur in women with ovarian cancer than women in the general population.

These symptoms include:

Pelvic or abdominal pain
Difficulty eating or feeling full quickly
Urinary symptoms (urgency or frequency)

Women with ovarian cancer report that symptoms are persistent and represent a change from normal for their bodies. The frequency and/or number of such symptoms are key factors in the diagnosis of ovarian cancer. Several studies show that even early stage ovarian cancer can produce these symptoms.

Women who have these symptoms almost daily for more than a few weeks should see their doctor, preferably a gynecologist. Prompt medical evaluation may lead to detection at the earliest possible stage of the disease. Early stage diagnosis is associated with an improved prognosis.

Several other symptoms have been commonly reported by women with ovarian cancer. These symptoms include fatigue, indigestion, back pain, pain with intercourse, constipation and menstrual irregularities. However, these other symptoms are not as useful in identifying ovarian cancer because they are also found in equal frequency in women in the general population who do not have ovarian cancer.

Please wear TEAL and help spread the word!

Nothing to exciting

Nothing to exciting has been going on. We went to Enterpriese for the 24 of July rodeo, we've hung out at the lake and went to a boxing match where we sat ring side. Now that football has started we really wont be doing much but I really love football season so I'm ok with that.

Wednesday, August 5, 2009

Grandmas Weekend

I know I already posted about Grandma's passing but there are some thing I want to keep for my memories.
This past weekend was my Grandma Waters funeral. While it was very hard, it was a good week. I was able to take the week off work and spend alot of time with my family. Thursday was the service in Henderson. It went really well. My Grandma looked very peaceful and beautiful.
After the service we had a luncheon and was able to spend time with friends and family who had traveled to be there. On the way home Brandon and I were talking and he said something that has really helped me get through this. He said" you know how your Grandpa went on a mission after he and your Grandma were married and she waited 2 years for him, well now your Grandma is on her mission and she is getting everything ready for your Grandpa to join her in heaven." I was like WOW! thats an amazing way of thinking of it. Its so true.

On Friday all my family in Henderson started to make their way to Idaho. That is where my Grandparents choose to be their final resting place. On the way up Brandon and I met up with my Dad, Grandpa, Kenzie and Grandma. Yes Grandma. When Grandpa was making the arrangements to get Grandma to Idaho, I'm not totally sure how it all came about, but flying her would have cost over $1000.00. So, the funeral home suggested a U-Haul, but Grandma deserved better and they asked if anyone in the family had a SUV that would fit a casket. Measurements were taken of my moms Yukon XL and it was a perfect match. So my Grandpa was able to make Grandma's the final drive to Idaho with her. On one of our gas up stops I was talking to my dad and Grandpa and told them what Brandon had said and we stood there and cried because we know its true.

We all made it to Idaho safe and had a beautiful service which my Grandpa spoke and did amazing! I don't know I would be able to do something like that. Singing was hard enough! We buried Grandma at the Grant Central Cemetery. I do wish she was closer to us, but she is with a lot of her family. Grandma's flowers were a little more colorful then you would normally see on a casket, but each flower had a special meaning. On Mother's Day every year my Grandma wore a crosage that had 5 flowers with 2 different colors, 3 for her girls and 2 for her sons so it was only right that her final flowers carried on that. My Mom and aunt Tami did a beautiful job making sure it was done right with, one red for Grandpa, two yellow for her sons Jeff and Jerry, three purple for her daughters Tami, Tonya, and Tedene, 6 blue for her grandsons Brandon, Brad, Zack, Trevor, Stryder, and Soren, 12 pink for her granddaughters Taryn, Lacey, Katie, Lauren, Jordan, Hannah, Whitney, Amanda, Mackenzie, Sarah, Emma, and Shelby, and one white for the great grandbaby on the way.

I have so many wonderful memories of my grandma and am going to truly miss her, but I know its only a short time until I see her again. I love you the most Grandma.

Monday, July 27, 2009

Grandma Waters

Yesterday was a very hard day. My wonderful Grandma Waters passed away after fighting cancer. I'm still a little shocked that she is gone. I'm waiting to wake up from a bad dream. She was diagnosed with a rare and mean form of ovarian cancer just a little over a month ago. I'm so sad that she is gone but glad she didn't have to fight for a long time. She is no longer in pain and is perfect (hot pink toe nail and all). I'm am so thankful for the gospel and eternal families. Just knowing that we WILL see her again makes these hard times a little easier. She was an awesome example to her family and friends. She is going to be missed by so many. Grandma, I love you so much! Thanks for always being there for me and my family. We promise to take care of Grandpa. Thanks for all the wonderful memories. Remember we love you the most!

Tuesday, July 7, 2009

We're Back!

We are back from our trip but Im to tired to do a full recap of the trip so this will have to do for now.

Thursday, June 25, 2009

June happenings

In June, Greta came out for work and we were able to meet the 2 cute girls and have dinner with her. I sure miss her and wished she lived closer. Love you Greta!!!!

Last weekend Zack was in his first longdrive and closest to the pin comp in St. George. He did good for his first one and won over $200 worth of stuff. Good Job Z-MAN!!

We also went to dinner with Brandon and Lindsey while up there. I dont like how I look in the picture so I wont post it. It was a fun time though. We are also off to PA and BOSTON on Tuesday!!! Cant wait!

Saturday, June 6, 2009

A little of what we have been going through

I have been debating if I should publish this post or not. I have started this several time and end up deleting it because I don't want the "oh I sorry's" but I feel maybe its time to share.

Brandon and I have been trying to start our family for almost 2 years and have turned to Dr's for some help. We have had failed clomid cycles, a very hard failed IUI, surgery that we got no answers and now we are looking into doing IVF. I found the article below and it sums up all my feelings. This isn't meant to be a poor me or pitty party on my part, I would just like to let you all in on a little of what we have been, and are going through.

Infertility Etiquette By Vita Alligood

Chances are, you know someone who is struggling with infertility. More than five million people of childbearing age in the United States experience infertility. Yet, as a society, we are woefully uninformed about how to best provide emotional support for our loved ones during this painful time.

Infertility is, indeed, a very painful struggle. The pain is similar to the grief over losing a loved one, but it is unique because it is a recurring grief. When a loved one dies, he isn't coming back. There is no hope that he will come back from the dead. You must work through the stages of grief, accept that you will never see this person again, and move on with your life.

The grief of infertility is not so cut and dry. Infertile people grieve the loss of the baby that they may never know. They grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy's nose and daddy's eyes. But, each month, there is the hope that maybe that baby will be conceived after all. No matter how hard they try to prepare themselves for bad news, they still hope that this month will be different. Then, the bad news comes again, and the grief washes over the infertile couple anew. This process happens month after month, year after year. It is like having a deep cut that keeps getting opened right when it starts to heal.

As the couple moves into infertility treatments, the pain increases while the bank account depletes. Most infertility treatments involve using hormones, which alter the user's moods. (That statement is like calling a lion a cat-my husband would tell you that the side effect is insanity!) The tests are invasive and embarrassing to both parties, and you feel like the doctor has taken over your bedroom. And for all of this discomfort, you pay a lot of money. Infertility treatments are expensive, and most insurance companies do not cover the costs. So, in addition to the pain of not conceiving a baby each month, the couple pays out anywhere from $300 to five figures, depending upon the treatment used.

A couple will eventually resolve the infertility problem in one of three ways:

They will eventually conceive a baby.
They will stop the infertility treatments and choose to live without children.
They will find an alternative way to parent, such as by adopting a child or becoming a foster parent.

Reaching a resolution can take years, so your infertile loved ones need your emotional support during this journey. Most people don't know what to say, so they wind up saying the wrong thing, which only makes the journey so much harder for their loved ones. Knowing what not to say is half of the battle to providing support.

Don't Tell Them to Relax

Everyone knows someone who had trouble conceiving but then finally became pregnant once she "relaxed." Couples who are able to conceive after a few months of "relaxing" are not infertile. By definition, a couple is not diagnosed as "infertile" until they have tried unsuccessfully to become pregnant for a full year. In fact, most infertility specialists will not treat a couple for infertility until they have tried to become pregnant for a year. This year weeds out the people who aren't infertile but just need to "relax." Those that remain are truly infertile.

Comments such as "just relax" or "try going on a cruise" create even more stress for the infertile couple, particularly the woman. The woman feels like she is doing something wrong when, in fact, there is a good chance that there is a physical problem preventing her from becoming pregnant.

These comments can also reach the point of absurdity. As a couple, my husband and I underwent two surgeries, numerous insemination's, hormone treatments, and four years of poking and prodding by doctors. Yet, people still continued to say things like, "If you just relaxed on a cruise . . ." Infertility is a diagnosable medical problem that must be treated by a doctor, and even with treatment, many couples will NEVER successfully conceive a child. Relaxation itself does not cure medical infertility.

Don't Minimize the Problem

Failure to conceive a baby is a very painful journey. Infertile couples are surrounded by families with children. These couples watch their friends give birth to two or three children, and they watch those children grow while the couple goes home to the silence of an empty house. These couples see all of the joy that a child brings into someone's life, and they feel the emptiness of not being able to experience the same joy.

Comments like, "Just enjoy being able to sleep late . . . .travel . . etc.," do not offer comfort. Instead, these comments make infertile people feel like you are minimizing their pain. You wouldn't tell somebody whose parent just died to be thankful that he no longer has to buy Father's Day or Mother's Day cards. Losing that one obligation doesn't even begin to compensate for the incredible loss of losing a parent. In the same vein, being able to sleep late or travel does not provide comfort to somebody who desperately wants a child.

Don't Say There Are Worse Things That Could Happen

Along the same lines, don't tell your friend that there are worse things that she could be going through. Who is the final authority on what is the "worst" thing that could happen to someone? Is it going through a divorce? Watching a loved one die? Getting raped? Losing a job?

Different people react to different life experiences in different ways. To someone who has trained his whole life for the Olympics, the "worst" thing might be experiencing an injury the week before the event. To someone who has walked away from her career to become a stay-at-home wife for 40 years, watching her husband leave her for a younger woman might be the "worst" thing. And, to a woman whose sole goal in life has been to love and nurture a child, infertility may indeed be the "worst" thing that could happen.

People wouldn't dream of telling someone whose parent just died, "It could be worse: both of your parents could be dead." Such a comment would be considered cruel rather than comforting. In the same vein, don't tell your friend that she could be going through worse things than infertility.

Don't Say They Aren't Meant to Be Parents

One of the cruelest things anyone ever said to me is, "Maybe God doesn't intend for you to be a mother." How incredibly insensitive to imply that I would be such a bad mother that God felt the need to divinely sterilize me. If God were in the business of divinely sterilizing women, don't you think he would prevent the pregnancies that end in abortions? Or wouldn't he sterilize the women who wind up neglecting and abusing their children? Even if you aren't religious, the "maybe it's not meant to be" comments are not comforting. Infertility is a medical condition, not a punishment from God or Mother Nature.

Don't Ask Why They Aren't Trying IVF

In vitro fertilization (IVF) is a method in which the woman harvests multiple eggs, which are then combined with the man's sperm in a petri dish. This is the method that can produce multiple births. People frequently ask, "Why don't you just try IVF?" in the same casual tone they would use to ask, "Why don't you try shopping at another store?"

There are many reasons why a couple would choose not to pursue this option. Here are a few of them.

IVF is Expensive with Low Odds
One cycle of IVF is very expensive.
With all of the hype in the news, many people assume that IVF is a sure thing when, in fact, the odds of success for each cycle are low.
Most couples cannot afford to try for one month, much less for multiple times.
Considering that it also costs a significant amount of money to adopt a baby, many couples opt for the "sure thing" rather then risking their money on much lower odds.

IVF is Physically Taxing

Undergoing IVF treatments is very rigorous. The woman must inject shots into her thigh daily to cause her ovaries to superovulate. The drugs used are very taxing on the woman, and they can cause her to be become extremely emotional.

IVF Raises Ethical Issues

Ironically, couples who undergo IVF to become parents may have to selectively abort one or more fetuses if multiple eggs are fertilized. Many couples cannot bring themselves to abort a baby when they have worked so hard to become parents. If the couple chooses not to selectively abort, they run the risk of multiple births.

Don't Offer Unsolicited Opinions If They Are Trying IVF

On the flip side of the coin, don't offer unsolicited advice to your friends who do choose to try IVF. For many couples, IVF is the only way they will ever give birth to a baby. This is a huge decision for them to make, for all of the reasons I outlined above. If the couple has resolved any ethical issues, don't muddy the waters. IVF is a gray area in many ethical circles, and many of our moral leaders don't yet know how to answer the ethical questions that have arisen from this new technology.

If the couple has resolved these issues already, you only make it harder by raising the ethical questions again. Respect their decision, and offer your support. If you can't offer your support due to ethical differences of opinion, then say nothing.

A couple who chooses the IVF route has a hard, expensive road ahead, and they need your support more than ever. The hormones are no cakewalk, and the financial cost is enormous. Your friend would not be going this route if there were an easier way, and the fact that she is willing to endure so much is further proof of how much she truly wants to parent a child. The hormones will make her more emotional, so offer her your support and keep your questions to yourself.

Don't Play Doctor

Once your infertile friends are under a doctor's care, the doctor will run them through numerous tests to determine why they aren't able to conceive. There a numerous reasons that a couple may not be able to conceive. Here are a few of them:

Blocked fallopian tubes
Low hormone levels
Low "normal form" sperm count
Low progesterone level
Low sperm count
Low sperm motility
Thin uterine walls
Or Unexplained infertility(what we have at this point)

Infertility is a complicated problem to diagnose, and reading an article or book on infertility will not make you an "expert" on the subject. Let your friends work with their doctor to diagnose and treat the problem. Your friends probably already know more about the causes and solutions of infertility than you will ever know.

You may feel like you are being helpful by reading up on infertility, and there is nothing wrong with learning more about the subject. The problem comes when you try to "play doctor" with your friends. They already have a doctor with years of experience in diagnosing and treating the problem. They need to work with and trust their doctor to treat the problem. You only complicate the issue when you throw out other ideas that you have read about. The doctor knows more about the causes and solutions; let your friends work with their doctor to solve the problem.

Don't Be Crude

It is appalling that I even have to include this paragraph, but some of you need to hear this-Don't make crude jokes about your friend's vulnerable position. Crude comments like "I'll donate the sperm" or "Make sure the doctor uses your sperm for the insemination" are not funny, and they only irritate your friends.

Don't Complain About Your Pregnancy

This message is for pregnant women-Just being around you is painful for your infertile friends. Seeing your belly grow is a constant reminder of what your infertile friend cannot have. Unless an infertile women plans to spend her life in a cave, she has to find a way to interact with pregnant women. However, there are things you can do as her friend to make it easier.

The number one rule is DON'T COMPLAIN ABOUT YOUR PREGNANCY. I understand from my friends that, when you are pregnant, your hormones are going crazy and you experience a lot of discomfort, such as queasiness, stretch marks, and fatigue. You have every right to vent about the discomforts to any one else in your life, but don't put your infertile friend in the position of comforting you.

Your infertile friend would give anything to experience the discomforts you are enduring because those discomforts come from a baby growing inside of you. When I heard a pregnant woman complain about morning sickness, I would think, "I'd gladly throw up for nine straight months if it meant I could have a baby." When a pregnant woman would complain about her weight gain, I would think, "I would cut off my arm if I could be in your shoes."

I managed to go to baby showers and hospitals to welcome my friends' new babies, but it was hard. Without exception, it was hard. Stay sensitive to your infertile friend's emotions, and give her the leeway that she needs to be happy for you while she cries for herself. If she can't bring herself to hold your new baby, give her time. She isn't rejecting you or your new baby; she is just trying to work her way through her pain to show sincere joy for you. The fact that she is willing to endure such pain in order to celebrate your new baby with you speaks volumes about how much your friendship means to her.

Don't Treat Them Like They Are Ignorant

For some reason, some people seem to think that infertility causes a person to become unrealistic about the responsibilities of parenthood. I don't follow the logic, but several people told me that I wouldn't ache for a baby so much if I appreciated how much responsibility was involved in parenting.

Let's face it-no one can fully appreciate the responsibilities involved in parenting until they are, themselves, parents. That is true whether you successfully conceived after one month or after 10 years. The length of time you spend waiting for that baby does not factor in to your appreciation of responsibility. If anything, people who have been trying to become pregnant longer have had more time to think about those responsibilities. They have also probably been around lots of babies as their friends started their families.

Perhaps part of what fuels this perception is that infertile couples have a longer time to "dream" about what being a parent will be like. Like every other couple, we have our fantasies-my child will sleep through the night, would never have a tantrum in public, and will always eat his vegetables. Let us have our fantasies. Those fantasies are some of the few parent-to-be perks that we have-let us have them. You can give us your knowing looks when we discover the truth later.

Don't Gossip About Your Friend's Condition

Infertility treatments are very private and embarrassing, which is why many couples choose to undergo these treatments in secret. Men especially are very sensitive to letting people know about infertility testing, such as sperm counts. Gossiping about infertility is not usually done in a malicious manner. The gossipers are usually well-meaning people who are only trying to find out more about infertility so they can help their loved ones.

Regardless of why you are sharing this information with someone else, it hurts and embarrasses your friend to find out that Madge the bank teller knows what your husband's sperm count is and when your next period is expected. Infertility is something that should be kept as private as your friend wants to keep it. Respect your friend's privacy, and don't share any information that your friend hasn't authorized.

Don't Push Adoption (Yet)

Adoption is a wonderful way for infertile people to become parents. (As an adoptive parent, I can fully vouch for this!!) However, the couple needs to work through many issues before they will be ready to make an adoption decision. Before they can make the decision to love a "stranger's baby," they must first grieve the loss of that baby with Daddy's eyes and Mommy's nose. Adoption social workers recognize the importance of the grieving process. When my husband and I went for our initial adoption interview, we expected the first question to be, "Why do you want to adopt a baby?" Instead, the question was, "Have you grieved the loss of your biological child yet?" Our social worker emphasized how important it is to shut one door before you open another.

You do, indeed, need to grieve this loss before you are ready to start the adoption process. The adoption process is very long and expensive, and it is not an easy road. So, the couple needs to be very sure that they can let go of the hope of a biological child and that they can love an adopted baby. This takes time, and some couples are never able to reach this point. If your friend cannot love a baby that isn't her "own," then adoption isn't the right decision for her, and it is certainly not what is best for the baby.

Mentioning adoption in passing can be a comfort to some couples. (The only words that ever offered me comfort were from my sister, who said, "Whether through pregnancy or adoption, you will be a mother one day.") However, "pushing" the issue can frustrate your friend. So, mention the idea in passing if it seems appropriate, and then drop it. When your friend is ready to talk about adoption, she will raise the issue herself.

So, what can you say to your infertile friends? Unless you say "I am giving you this baby," there is nothing you can say that will erase their pain. So, take that pressure off of yourself. It isn't your job to erase their pain, but there is a lot you can do to lesson the load. Here are a few ideas.

Let Them Know That You Care

The best thing you can do is let your infertile friends know that you care. Send them cards. Let them cry on your shoulder. If they are religious, let them know you are praying for them. Offer the same support you would offer a friend who has lost a loved one. Just knowing they can count on you to be there for them lightens the load and lets them know that they aren't going through this alone.

Remember Them on Mother's Day (and Father's Day)

With all of the activity on Mother's Day, people tend to forget about women who cannot become mothers. Mother's Day is an incredibly painful time for infertile women. You cannot get away from it-There are ads on the TV, posters at the stores, church sermons devoted to celebrating motherhood, and all of the plans for celebrating with your own mother and mother-in-law.

Mother's Day is an important celebration and one that I relish now that I am a mother. However, it was very painful while I was waiting for my baby. Remember your infertile friends on Mother's Day, and send them a card to let them know you are thinking of them. They will appreciate knowing that you haven't "forgotten" them.

Support Their Decision to Stop Treatments

No couple can endure infertility treatments forever. At some point, they will stop. This is an agonizing decision to make, and it involves even more grief. Even if the couple chooses to adopt a baby, they must still first grieve the loss of that baby who would have had mommy's nose and daddy's eyes.

Once the couple has made the decision to stop treatments, support their decision. Don't encourage them to try again, and don't discourage them from adopting, if that is their choice. Once the couple has reached resolution (whether to live without children, adopt a child, or become foster parents), they can finally put that chapter of their lives behind them. Don't try to open that chapter again.

Saturday, May 30, 2009

Great Grandma Waters

On May 22 my Great Grandma Waters passed away in Idaho Falls ID. She live a long 92 years. She was married to my Great Grandpa for 74 years and 10 months. As sad as I am, it was a good thing. She has been fighting with Alzheimer's and dementia for the last few years. Heavenly Father decided that she fought long enough. I'm so happy for eternal families and knowing that I will be able to see her again.

While we were up in Idaho we were able to meet up with Brandon's last mission companion. They were AP's together. It was fun to get to hang out with him and his cute family. We went mini golfing ,rode go karts and the boys rode the buck-a-roo! Thanks Edstrom family for a fun time. Also thanks Uncle Pete and Aunt Darleen for a place to stay and all the wonderful food!!!